The conventional approach is to be sure we’re good to those who are good to us. If we receive a gift from someone, we certainly want to be sure we “return the favor.” What if we thought about that differently? What if we allowed the kind deeds of others to remind us to do a kind deed; not to the person who was nice to us, but to someone who needs it even more? What if we did something nice for someone who has never done anything nice for us? What if we would be generous to someone who couldn’t possibly ever return the favor? Then we could be self-assured that our motive is pure and our intentions are unselfish.  I like the way that feels. Don’t you?